korkix78
19.06.11, 11:20
Dzisiejsze pierwszostronicowe newsy w Telegrafie bezprzewodowo rozlozyly mnie na lopatki
[..] Mr Cameron launches his fiercest attack on those fathers who fail to show long-term commitment.
He added: It's high time runaway dads were stigmatised, and the full force of shame was heaped upon them.
"They should be looked at like drink drivers, people who are beyond the pale.
"They need the message rammed home to them, from every part of our culture, that what they're doing is wrong – that leaving single mothers, who do a heroic job against all odds, to fend for themselves simply isn't acceptable."
wciaz na raty zbieram szczeke z ziemii po tym co uslyszalem, normalizujac jednoczesnie oczy po niekontrolowanym wytrzeszczu
www.telegraph.co.uk/news/politics/david-cameron/8583752/Runaway-fathers-are-like-drink-drivers-blasts-David-Cameron.html#dsq-content
Moze po prostu mam problem jak dokladnie rozumiec "runaway father"?
Tzn. czy to taki co ucieka od dzieci i ma je gdzies, czy po prostu nie uklada sie z zona/parnerka, a ze z zalozenia dzieci zostaja z nia, to i postanawia zamieszkac osobno?
Taka byla druga fala moich mysli, ale -po przeczytaniu kilku komentarzy przynajmniej wiem, ze moj bol mozgu nie jest jakis wyjatkowy, i wielu widzi to duzo bardziej jak ja, tj. zupelnie inaczej niz pan premier, np:
1. Successive governments have done everything they can to make fathers feel excluded from parenting, and to make mothers feel that their children are their personal property with whom they can walk off at any moment, leaving the courts and social services to keep the fathers out of their lives. This has sunk in, and many young men don't commit themselves emotionally to fatherhood because they know it can be taken away from them at any time on the whim of the mother.
If Mr Cameron wants men to take fatherhood more seriously, he could start by making the State take it seriously, and by assuring fathers that they'll be treated as more than just sperm banks/cash dispensers if the relationship with their childrens' mothers go wrong (or if the mothers had no intention of continuing the relationship past the 'sperm bank' stage in the first place). Demonising fathers with crude drink-driving analogies just won't do.
2. David Cameron is very naive. There are thousands of women who happily have a one-night stand in order to get all the benefits that then become available to them
Whilst the problem of an absent parent seems predominantly male it is not uniquely the case.
I for one was left with a 4 year old son to raise which I did with the aid and support of my parents.
I received nothing by way of financial help from my erstwhile wife even though she had a good job.
3. Cameron needs to address the issue of absent parents not just absent fathers.
A child does not ask to come into this world and my responsibilty as a parent (male) will remain until I die
4. What a stupid and irresponsible comment. Nobody forces a person to drink then get
behind the wheel of a vehicle and drive. Many fathers are separated from there
children due to circumstances outside their control. The father who spent six
months in Afghanistan
to come home and find his wife could no longer live with army life which caused
separation and the mother and children moving miles away from the base. Please
do not tar all fathers with the same brush Mr Cameron.
itp.