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WARTO:
Fourth-Density Relationships
Germane: Greetings to everyone. This is Germane. We'd
like to thank you all for coming this night. The title
of session is "Fourth-Density Relationships". We would
like to encourage you to feel free to ask any questions
that are on your mind on the topic.
We are going to start out by talking about the
transformation from third to fourth density. As you've
heard us say many times, one of the characteristics of
third density is separation?whether it be separation
from the God source, from each other, or separating
aspects of yourselves within yourselves.
This idea of separation has been necessary in third
density to keep you in the third density experience. We
are not saying in any way, shape or form, that the
separation that you have been a part of on your world
for the last several thousand years is in any way
wrong, bad, negative. It is part of the experience that
you have all chosen.
As you are moving from the 3D into the 4D reality, one
of the main qualities of fourth density reality is
integration, or reintegration. Therefore, the laws or
premises that you have in 3D reality (based on
separation) can no longer operate successfully in 4D.
If you attempt to carry the premises and beliefs of
separation into a 4D reality and refuse to let them go,
you can literally tear yourself apart emotionally.
A lot of what many of you are feeling in your own
growth (whether it be relationships with lovers,
family, friends or yourself) is almost a sense of
urgency about letting go of certain things that have
been carried for quite some time. This feeling of
urgency has to do with the idea, literally, that you
are moving from one vibrational reality to another. The
set of beliefs and premises that were operating in one
reality cannot be sustained in the next. So you are
feeling that desire to shift beliefs, to shift
premises, and therefore shift the way you live. To some
degree it is as if someone has handed you a tangled
ball of yarn. There it is in your lap, you don't know
where to start to untangle it. The only thing you can
do is start where the easiest place is to start.
3D Relationships
Bringing this into the topic of relationships, the
premises and beliefs of 3D (separation) were necessary
to maintain 3D relationships. Let us share with you
some of these principles. Principles based on
separation can be as follows:
Secrecy. This has been a big one in your society.
Secrecy is withholding information from your partner or
from yourself. Secrecy does not just operate on the
level of your interactions with others; secrecy keep
you separated from the greater portion of yourself, as
well. The idea of secrecy has been very important to
maintain relationships in 3D reality, because it is an
expression of separation.
Fear-based Monogamy. Another expression of separation
is the expression of what you would call
monogamy?fear-based monogamy. We are not talking about
monogamy by choice, we are talking about monogamy
through fear. That has been an expression based on
separation. The premise basically is that if you can
get someone to commit to you, then you thus take
yourself out of the flow of having to deal with
relationships and you are safe. You are separate from
the rest of the world. Separate and safe. This is
monogamy based on fear.
Conditional Love. Conditional love has been an
expression which has been very vital to maintaining
3D-type relationships. Conditional love means that you
will love someone only if they fulfill your needs or
conditions that you set out. If they do not fill this,
you will withdraw your love. There has been a
noncomprehension in 3D reality of the meaning of
unconditional love. When you are dealing from a
separative framework, the only way you can view
everything else is through that framework of
separation. And so love therefore (the old definition
of love in 3D) is love based on conditions.
Expectation. This means that you go into a relationship
with someone with expectations in your mind that maybe
you are not even aware of. If you are aware of these
expectations, you attempt to get the other person to
fulfill those expectations. Again, the person is used
to satisfy the need of the person seeking the relationship.
Manipulation. This is another quality often inherent in
3D relationships. This can be very covert. It is overt
in some cases, as well. However, in the classic 3D
relationship there can be very deep-seated manipulation
plays being done so that each person will get their
needs fulfilled or will be protected from their fears.
So often the idea of manipulation is carried out to
protect you from your own fears. If you manipulate the
other person, you can thus not feel your fear.
The Need to Control is also a quality inherent in very
solidly anchored 3D relationships. This is a mistrust
in reality?that everything is happening the way it
needs to be, or for your greater good. The need to
control says you do not accept that idea. You thus must
instead shape the relationship, force it, mold it,
because you do not trust it will be what it needs to be
by itself.
We will stop here because there is literally a lot more
we can say on this. It will come out later in the
session. Let us go to the 4D idea.
4D Relationships
Since 4D is based on integration or reintegration, the
characteristics that were once status quo in 3D
relationships can no longer be sustained in 4D.
Literally, the vibration cannot sustain separative
ideas. Qualities inherent in 4D relationships would be:
Honesty (Non-Secrecy). The couple or the unit must
have, at all costs, honesty instead of secrecy. This
means if you see in your friend or partner that they
are doing something that is sabotaging to themselves or
to the relationship that you speak that observation
instead of withholding it (so you do not hurt the
person's feelings), or so that you can continue to
control them being in the relationship. Literally we
are talking about polar opposites here.
3D is Secrecy, 4D is honesty. We cannot stress to you
enough how important honesty is in a 4D relationship.
If there is no honesty, there cannot be a continuation
of that relationship in the 4D model. It is that crucial.
When we say honesty, we are also talking about honesty
with the self. Many of you will at times keep things
from yourself to keep you feeling safe. Within a 4D
reality, it is very difficult to keep things from the
self. You may wake up one morning, and you may suddenly
realize that the relationship you are in no longer
serves you. That must be recognized for the flow to
continue. We are in no way saying, "You need to adopt
these characteristics now!" Not at all. You will do
this naturally. However, in this transition period now
between 3D and 4D, you are being hit with qualities
from both. As this happens, you will need to make some
choices about how you wish to continue in your
relationships.
We will state that if you choose the integrative model
(the 4D model) and you truly become that idea (not try
to become it) you will not feel the pain of loss in any
situation, in any relationship. You will only feel pain
or loss if you are either in the 3D relationship, or
deluding yourself into thinking you are in a 4D
relationship. That will be when the pain of loss comes up.
Again, we do want to stress to all of you that we are
not saying you must do this, and you must move into 4D
relationships. Not at all. You have choices. You can
make the choices. It is entirely up to you. However, we
want to help illustrate for you the package deal you
may be signing up for if you make certain choices. It
is a package deal.
If you make a choice based on separation (a 3D model),
and then expect to live in a 4D relationship, it is no
