high maintenance

[hopik]

co to wlasciwie znaczy? w jednym odcinku "friends" rachel sie poklocila z
monika zarzucajac jej, ze jest high maintenance, a tamta sie bardzo oburzyla
i mowila, ze nie jest. wiecie moze? w gugulu nie znajduje odpowiedzi na to
pytanie.

[ms.jones]

facetka o wymagajacej osobowosci
gives off a I'm-a-diva vibe

> w gugulu nie znajduje odpowiedzi na to
> pytanie.
????
www.google.pl/search?hl=pl&q=high+maintenance&lr=

[hopik]

w takim razie za co sie obrazac? wymagajaca osobowaosc to raczej zaleta?
tyle to ja sobie w gugulu tez znalazlam, dzieki:-) nie ma tam opisu co to
dokladnie znaczy, chcialabym sie dowiedziec od kogos kto dobrze wie co to
znaczy, najlepiej kogos, kto mieszka a anglojezycznym kraju.

[deadeasy]

Dla mnie to znaczy ze trzeba "naokolo niej biegac". Osoba taka wymaga "constant
attention". W pewnych wypadkach moze to tez znaczyc, ze dziewczyna jest "droga
w utrzymaniu" (czasowo, uczuciowo i materialnie) - facet tak moze powiedziec o
swojej dziewczynie.

[ms.jones]

Jak wyzej.
High maintenance women need attention, appreciation and affection.

cytat z forum na googlu:
"There are different types of high maintenace and varying degrees. I also would
consider myself high maintenance in some areas and absolutely not at all in
others. Are you talking more physically or emotionally? For instance ... would
you consider someone high maintenance because she requires a call every day or
an e-mail, is constantly reading into what you say or because you were always
having to keep reassuring her how you felt about her? Or is it more along the
lines of taking 2 hours to get ready, never goes out without full makeup,
spends $60 every two weeks on her nails or walks her dog in short skirt and
high heels..."


Tu masz 'Top 10 Signs She's High Maintenance' (rozwiniete w artykule ponizej):

1. She needs to be in control
2.She is socially inept
3.She is difficult to please
4.She doesn't know the meaning of sacrifice
5.She's not comfortable with herself
6.She never pays for a thing
7.She has irrational demands
8. Going out is like the countdown to eternity
9.She's daddy's girl
10.She's unfair

www.askmen.com/dating/dating_top_ten/24_dating_list.html
Jest sie o co obrazac?

[kylie1]

It means that she spends too much money on herself or has others to pay for all
her wants and needs.
My daughter is high maintenance...unfortunately :( ...she has hair and nails
done twice a month, she goes to the gym and tanning three times a week, she
won't wear anything other than brand name expensive stuff, shoes under a
hundred bucks does not even exists in her dictionary and make up has to be
right up there with the styles of the rich and famous. Thank God she pays for
all that HERSELF and as a student that gets her broke in no time.
That's in a nutshell what high maintenance means.
:)

[kaya11]

I have no idea why - whoever is writing about somebody who is high maintenance -
they are refering to a girl or a woman. Guys can be high maintenance too ! It
doesn't only mean that you have to pay for somebody, but also that that person
thinks they are the centre of the world...

[pc4u]

Dear Mama,
How do I spot a high maintenance man? I think the guy I’m dating may be high
maintenance. Help!
- Worried

Dear Worried,
You know, a high maintenance guy is not nearly so much fun as a high
maintenance gal. Where do I begin? From the way I take my tea, in a slightly
warmed cup, to the manicures, the highlights… oh, I could go on. I think high
maintenance women are really fun. Why? There is always something a man can do
to add to our happiness, whether it’s a new lip gloss, or a massage, or picking
us up, rather than meeting us there. Now, frankly, I am not sure if you are
talking about a man who is high maintenance, or a man who is difficult to
train. In other words, if he has a lot of lovely little details he insists on
for a high quality of life, like 400-thread count cotton sheets instead of
polyester blend, that is not a problem. In fact, that will add, overall, to
your quality of life. But if he always wants you to take care of him, or serve
him, or do things for him, rather than the other way around, I would reevaluate
him. He may be a training challenge.

The way a relationship works the best is when a woman is getting everything she
wants. When a man serves a woman, the relationship flies. When a woman serves a
man, the relationship tanks. So, if he is high maintenance, but willing to add
to your happiness and make you happy, keep him! That’s wonderful. And if he is
high maintenance and selfish… never interested in you, or what you want, you
may want to shop around and see what other men are out there. The bottom line:
be fun! If you’re having a good time with this man, even if he is a high
maintenance training challenge, go for the ride. You can practice your training
skills until a better one comes along!

Yours in training…

[kylie1]

I like that write up! :)
A high maintenance guy?....let's see...here we go into dresser...lip gloss
next to a tanning lotion, next to a hair straightener...next to a cuticle
clipper...oh, and look what do we have in here?...little breast pads...only
size AA /85, but at least he is trying - gotta give the guy a credit! Well,
well, well, and what's over here?...high heels! No wonder he twisted his ankle
twice last week! Still, you need to give him a break, he is trying sooooo
hard! :)

[deadeasy]

next time just give us the link...
;o)

thethewar.uglyvibe.com/
;o)

[kylie1]

I am writing about a teenage girl because she happens to be a female. Guys can
be high maintenance as well but women outdo them as far as that goes hands
down. And yes, teenagers do like to consider themselves center stage.

[kaya11]

You guys still don't get a point.
High maintenance DOES NOT mean paying for somebody's stuff, or requiring lots of
accessories. It may also mean personality. Somebody high maintenance may make
you comply, always do things they want to do, lower your self-esteem and make
you feel second best. My ex-husband was high maintenance and that's why I left
him. He didn't need a lot of lip gloss :))

[hopik]

any ideas for the polish equivalent??

[kaya11]

That's really hard to translate. The major difference between the two languages
is that usually what you can say in English using one or two words equals one or
two sentences in Polish. I don't know...

[kylie1]

I do get the point, Kaya. You got hung up on one thing about having to pay for
someone else's expensive tastes. If a guy is going out with a high maintenace
woman, he WILL be forking out the money for her expensive demands.Unless she
has money than she can burn, that's always ben like that.

As far as I know high maintenance is not a personality trait but it's all about
money.I don't agree with you on that.

Sorry to hear about your ex. Hard to even imagine that!

[ms.jones]

I think you two are just talking about two very different aspects of h.m. that
don't have to go together.
I can see why you say that being high maintenance is not a personality trait;
appreciating the finer things in life is a sign of a refined taste and
sophistication - if not a healthy bank balance.
On the other hand the constant need for attention or control etc speaks volumes
of insecurity and damage that you cant divorce from personality. Someone (male
or female) who is a constant drain on your own emotional
resources/time/patience is definitely 'high maintenance' without money
necessarily coming into it.

[kylie1]

I still don't see how the "high maintenance" phrase in itself should translate
into a control issue, emotional drain or insecurity. I guess it can be a sign
of all that but I think it's reading too much into it. I am just sticking to
the meaning of the phrase itself. I know plenty of people that are high
maintenance but they are not control feaks, insecure individuals, a drain on
their own bank accounts or their spouses. It's a quick assumption that does not
always ring true with regards to that phrase.
Sorry guys. You still don't have me convinced. :)

[ms.jones]

Maybe these will sway you?

female example:
I’ve only been in one monogamous relationship my entire life, and that one has
the definate possibility of being a poly relationship. After a lifetime of
introspection every time the green-eyed monster bit, I've gotten to the point
where I don't feel jealous anymore. For me, jealousy was always the mask to
cover feelings of insecurity. I have a pretty deep emotional need to be the
best of the best. I was a gifted child, in all the advance placement classes,
and I am painfully competitive. If I can’t be the best at something right away,
I have no interest in it. Loosing makes me see red and work even harder. I have
a hard time admitting, even to myself, that I feel insecure. Jealousy was an
easy way for me to not deal with my feelings of insecurity, a way to bypass
admitting to myself that I was terrified that someone I loved would leave me
for someone else because I wasn’t good enough. At this point in my life I don’t
dwell much on jealousy. I feel it, acknowledge it, and then dig deeper to see
if I’m feeling insecure. Most the time, that takes care of the jealousy issue,
although that brings up another, trickier issue. How do I effectively
communicate with my partner that I am feeling insecure, and what can they do
about it? Simply venting isn't effective communication, although that can help
a lot sometimes. How can I deal with this in a way that is healthy, and
strengthens the relationship?

I’m not a terribly high maintenance woman. I don’t demand a lot of dinners out,
a lot of money spent on me, or that my significant others drop all their
friends and social activities to spend more time with me. The only way that I
am high-maintenance is that I need a LOT of reassurance, and when I'm not
getting enough I am a lot more prone to feeling jealous and insecure and in
general, I get pretty weird. I am convinced that, if given the opportunity, my
significant others will forget about me, not want to be with me

male example:
Larry Brown is a great coach. He is great because he always worries that his
team will fall apart; he will stop in the middle of any drill to correct a
mistake. He is great because he always thinks he can make anybody better.


Larry Brown is incredibly high-maintenance. He is high-maintenance because he
always worries that his team will fall apart; he needs to be reminded
constantly about his value. He is high-maintenance because he always thinks he
can make his team better, and in any given week he will suggest trading half
his players.

The way I see it, any single characteristic that is a continuous drain on
others can put a person in the high maintenance category - with respect to that
charicteristic.

[kylie1]

OK, I see where you're coming from but that's totally different.Let me show you
how different:

The coach is high maintenance because he wants to get the most out of his
players and he pushes them to the limits. In other words he expects a lot to
out of them to maintain the HIGHest STANDARDS. A lot of coaches are like that
and this is a GOOD thing (talk about pep talk!).This does not relate to money
self centerediness or is the result of some insecurity.

In her case, she is almost apologetic about her jealousy issue and self doubt.
She clearly states that she is not a high maintenance woman...read the line "I
am not a terribly high m...". Now she carries on by saying that the only "high
maintenance" issue she has is not with the $$$ but with feelings...that's
where she needs to be constatnly assured that everything's OK.In other words "I
am not asking much, I am not costing you anything - just keep reassuring me
that there is no reason for my jealousy".

Again, Miss Jones :) it's just a parallel she is using. The fact that she has
an emotional issue with jealousy to begin with has nothing to do with the
phrase itself and I think this excerpt really shows that to sway your opinion.

To make the long story short, high maintenance here means a high demand for
something.

Going by your example, I might say:

"My kid loves having his dad read to him every night. They have gone through so
many books I lose count. He is really high maintenance when it comes to
reading".

Now, are we testing the kid's personality in a negative way?

He likes to be read to. Good for him.


In all the examples, there is a pre-existing situation that gives the phrase a
different meaning but all are realted.

The phrase alone still means what I explained before.


Not swayed...sorry.. :))

[ms.jones]

1.bloody hell!
2. I'm seriously thinking about changing the stupid name
3. just like you, the first association she came up with was to do with £££ :)
but she wrongly assumes that she's not costing him anything - she want him to
PAY :D her enough attention to allay her insecurity in the relationship (and
hence in herself). This must be a drain on him and puts a damper on his
behaviour/interaction with other women. She may not see herself as high
maintenance but he will and she as good as admits it. So it's not a parallel.It
is not her intention to be h.m. she is the way she is, can't help herself, but
it must be at some cost to him, all be it not a material one.

If a kid likes to have his dad read to him a lot, that's great. They are
bonding, the kid's learning, his keen mind is stimulated, he goes to sleep
without arguments, and he'll go on to be a high achiever in school and do his
parents proud. The dad is happy to invest his time, effort and energy - it fits
in with his script of how to be a good dad and bring up a great kid. Everyone's
happy.

High maintenance comes in when one of the interested parties is 'asked'/put in
a position where they have to give more than they are comfortable with. H.m. is
not intrinsic to the 'actor' - they go about their life as they see fit - but
it's how s/he is perceived by others who find that interacting with them
involves more than they bargined for.

To hell with the coach.

[kylie1]

1. OK....bloody hell what? :)
2. what's wrong with that name?
3. You got me totally confused now. I give up. I am high "maintenanced out" for
now.

Kind regards to all

:)

[sweet_auburn]

I think she got p*** off because either she couldn't convince you or you called
her Miss. And she probably has been a little bit older and married with one of
those dashing British gentelmen, who gleefully bestowed the title of his
own: "Sir Jones" or "His Majesty", the one at which women gaze in awe. You
know, those with strutting British manner, in meticulous dress, leggings,
britches and with carefully powdered hair. Those who entirely reflect the
heritage of ruling class and who used to arouse and spread fear of monarchy in
eighteenth century in the U.S. Not any chips and fish or whatever the hell they
call it.
Well, any way, what do I know.

how about...

[hopik]

how about "trzeba wokół niej/niego skakać" as a translation?

[kylie1]

I don't think Ms Jones sounded antything pissed off. :) I have a relative in my
own family that's married to an English Lord. Never met him or cared enough to
meet him. I wouldn't know what to do in case of an accidental burp, belch or
wind passing (you know, the one they call a "slipper").How about an emergency
nose picking? If those things were to happen around The Serene Highness, I
could easily hurt His feelings. I would hate that!
Fish and chips are great. I love cod or sole smothered in beer batter. Nice and
crispy!

:)

[ms.jones]

I've just lost my whole answer when I know I was logged on! And it doesn't show
the post I'm replying to, grrr...

Kylie1 :)

1. I was part impressed with what you posted, part annoyed as I could see
myself getting drawn in instead doing some (boring) paperwork. Just mumbling to
myself, didn't mean to be rude, sorry if it sounded like that.
2. identity crisis?
3. Asked about the phrase at work today. They'd all use it to mean what you
said - someone who spends a lot of money on themselves and/or gets others to to
pay for their expensive taste. They agreed that there was more to it but the
first interpretation was uppermost in their minds, along the lines:

My youngest daughter=high maintenance.
Always hitting me up for cash for:tanning salon, special nail treatments, skin
treatments, hair treatments etc. etc. ad nauseam--2 or 3x a month.

So on second thoughts I wondered if I confused it with 'she is hard work' but
later today I found the only dictionary definition:

requiring excessive attention: requiring an excessive amount of attention or
effort to maintain e.g:
a high-maintenance car
a high-maintenance relationship

and
www.ocf.berkeley.edu/~wrader/slang/h.html
requires a lot of work. Generally referring to a relationship in which the
other person is needy or greedy.

www.phrases.org.uk/bulletin_board/34/messages/1333.html
Woman to husband "I've hit the wall. If I stay low-maintenance any longer, I'm
going to scream." (Fr Pardon My Planet)

Is there a synonym for "low maintenance" in this context? The closest I can
come is "economical," which doesn't quite fit for one reason or another.

"Low maintenance" here means that she does not require that her husband spend a
lot of effort trying to please her and does not give him a hard time about
things. Or, it could refer to her appearance as well. That is, she doesn't
spend a lot of time and effort on make-up and such. On the flip side, there is
the "high maintenance" woman who is just the opposite.
The question "is there a synonym?" I think must be answered No. It takes 6 to 8
words minimum to encompass all the facets of "high maintenance." Self-involved,
vain, expensive, demanding, materialistic, blah blah blah ... that's just the
beginning. It's really a rich phrase.

And from a random website:

When I first heard the term “high maintenance” (in Philadelphia in the late
1980s), it signified a very specific type of woman. (Never used for men.) A
glossy, beautiful, flawlessly made-up blonde obsessed with appearance and
appearances, requiring enormous amounts of money to fuel her look and
lifestyle. A trophy wife.
Later the term (as I heard it used) was extrapolated to include people who made
selfish, unreasonable demands for other kinds of currency, including
compliments, gifts, attention, and affection. The kind of person for whom
nothing is ever enough, who says, “If you don’t know what’s wrong, I’m
certainly not going to tell you.”

So it's back to square one for me. As for translation, can you say a woman
is 'kosztowna do utrzymania'? In the broader meaning 'trzeba sie duzo przy niej
(nim)nabiegac/naskakac' seems fine to me. I'm high maintenanced out now...

[kylie1]

Don't worry, I have my e-mail disappear in virtual heaven too. Not very often
but it still happens. Something tells me computers won't take over any time
soon....

Glad we got that settled. :) :)

I am done on that issue.

You got a high maintenance kid too?
So very sorry to hear that. In fact I should be looking for H.M Daughters
Anonymous meetings in my neighborhood and real quick too. They are a pain in
the neck! At least she is not dipping into my wallet but it just gets on your
nerves so much...


:)

[sweet_auburn]

Maybe that was a kind of abrupt calling her pissed but since I have been
hanging around, I've never seen her writing a curse or being a bit angry.

But any way, if it comes to fish and chips I have no clue how they taste like
but if they go with beer batter I think I would like it. I like pretty much
everything that goes with any alcohol.

[kylie1]

I will tell you what these taste like....heaven!!! Just try it. But remember
the batter needs to be nice and crispy and hot! Balsamic vinegar to sprinkle it
with and a wedge of lemon on the side. MMMmmmmmmm

[ms.jones]

I've never heard of beer batter, until now that is. Do you have a good recipe
(there's too many on google) as long as it doesn't require deep frying?

[nasza_maggie]

jones, ever heard of battered snickers or mars bars?
They eat them up in Edinburgh :)))

[ms.jones]

only vaguely... deep fried ice-cream? Whatever next???
In Edinburgh you say? Slightly out of my way at the moment but I'll give them a
try if they sell them at Tesco's.
:)

[kylie1]

Well, Beer Batter Fish and chips is supposed to be a British staple. Or so I
hear.
Unfortunately (for you) it is deep fried and that's why it tastes so good.

The easiest recipe:
www.cooks.com/rec/doc/0,1617,157187-236206,00.html
Something tells me you don't hang around fish and chips joints that much....am
I right? I stopped counting inches around my waist a long time ago. I am too
old for that.
Mind you, you can always pan fry the fish but I don't think it will be as
crispy.

[ms.jones]

Thanks! I'll try it out (- deep frying)
Sure,fish and chips are as British as ...fish and chips (with salt and vinegar,
and a fine dish it is too), but beer batter? I thought it was an Aussie
improvement:) Don't know.
Last year I did some voluntary work which involved cooking for about 100
people. We had food donated by shops and charities but on the last day we were
running low except for a few basic ingredients like potatoes, cabbage etc.
Someone had a brilliant idea to make an old fashioned bubble-and-squeak, and
bread-and-butter pudding (with brioche donated by Harrods) Both were wonderful
esp b-a-b as anything involving custard is!

[kylie1]

You are welcome. :)
Wow, cooking for a hundred people? Sounds like a Russian Army to me!
I've heard of a bread and butter pudding but I have no clue what bubble and
squeak pudding is. Does it have a bubble gum flavor or something? And I guess
it squeaks (?) when you eat it...? If it's an old fashioned recipe, it can't be
bubble gum, I am sure. Can you imagine Queen Victoria moving her jaws while
chomping on a wad of chewing gum?
I like custard a lot so if you have an easy recipe for me, I'll gladly use it.
That would be great. :)

bubble and squeak

[ms.jones]

traditional dish - basically it's 'Sunday dinner' left-overs: mashed potatoes
and boiled cabbage :D They are mixed together (=bubble) and fried with some
onion, supposedly squeaking during the process :) You can eat it any time you'd
have left overs :)) Surprisingly nice!

Custard - I buy it ready made... My mother-in-law used to make it and it was
yummy. I've got 2 recipies, supposed to be good ones:

Custard Sauce
600ml milk
1/2 vanilla pod
2 tablespoons caster sugar
4 egg yolks
Put the milk in a saucepan with the vanilla pod and heat over very gentle heat
without boiling. Remove from the heat, cover + leave to infuse for 10 min.
Remove the pod + stir in the sugar.
Beat the egg yolks and gradually stir in the hot milk. Pour the custard back
into the pan, stir over VERY low heat until it's creamy and thickened. (enough
to coat the back of a wooden spoon :) If the custard is to be used cold, pour
it into a bowl and sprinkle with sugar to stop the skin forming.

Simple custard sauce
Mix 2 tbsp cournflour with a little milk, the sugar, egg yolks and 1 teaspoon
natural vanilla essence to make a smooth thin paste. Heat the remaining milk
until it's just beginning to skin over, then add the cornflour mixture,
stirring all the time. Pour custard back into the saucepan and bring slowly to
the boil (just), stirring continuously. Simmer gently for 2 minutes. This gives
a thicker pouring sauce; the cornflour stabilises the mixture by stopping it
curdling.

All this pouring of things out and back again sound fiddly to me, but I'm told
it's quite straightforward. Anyway, if you ever try it I hope it's works.
:)

[kylie1]

Thanks!
I am a real bonehead sometimes! I do have custard at home. I use the Byrd's
kind and it's yum. What I wanted to ask you was the recipe for the bread and
butter and the bubble-and-squeak thingy. I thought bubble and squeak was the
name of a pudding!
Left overs? There is never any shortage of those here! :) I would have never
guessed it's made from left overs.
Thanks a lot. I will print it out and off to the kitchen for me. Oh wait a
minute, I don't have any left overs...I have teenagers. I guess that explains
things.

Good night Ms Jones, it must be late in England right now! :)

[ms.jones]

Sugar! 1.02 am!

[ms.jones]

What time is it where you are?

[kylie1]

5:28pm...kids are all gone - no dinner cooking!

:)

[ms.jones]

Stuck in the past ;) but looking on the bright side it must be nice to have a
window into the future.

bread and butter pudding recipe
www.ivillage.co.uk/food/bakingdesserts/hotpuds/articles/0,,164355_175183-1,00.html

but it's for 8-10 people. My book recipe for 4 gives the ingredients as
8 slices of buttered white bread (without the crust and cut into 4 squares)
50g raisins
2 eggs
3 tablespoons caster sugar
1/2 teaspoon natural vanilla essence
600 ml milk
grated rind of one lemon

You alternate layers of buttered bread and risins/lemon rind. Beat eggs with
sugar, vanilla and milk. Pour over bread, leave to stand for 15 min. Sprinkle a
little sugar over the top and bake at 180 C for 45 min or until it's set and
golden brown.
Enjoy!

[kylie1]

Got it, thanks!

examples of high maintenance women

[nasza_maggie]

Victoria Beckham (little talent, big spending demand - does she earn it
herself??:))

Can guys be high maintenance??? I'm not so sure...as to maintain something,
don't you have to pay for it??? I always thought this term concerned women and
their gifts etc. being paid for, by men.
Maybe I'm wrong:)

If you have any other examples, post them.

[kylie1]

Victoria Backham - little talent, little brain but big $$$ :)

[kaya11]

I give up on you kylie. I can see that there is no way I can convince you but I
still stand my grounds. I talk from experience not from a dictionary, I heard
the expresion "high maintenance" personality in so many situations, movies ect.
that it would be unfair to tell the people who are learning Ebglish that this
expression is only about $$$. If you want the proof, google "high maintenance
personality" and it will link you to a quiz, where they will ask you questions like:
- do you get upset when your mate misses your birthday ?
or
- do you expect things how you want them and when you want them ?
or
- do YOU decide when to have sex with your mate ?
and so on and so forth...
That obviously proves my point that it's NOT ONLY about money.

[axxolotl]

I'm with kaya here. I think high maintenance refers not only to money, but
also to personality. A high maintenance woman is one (in my opinion) that not
only demands gifts, dinners etc. but also time and attention. Mowiac po
ludzku ;), ciagle trzeba kolo takiej 'skakac' zeby ja zadowolic.
Can men be high maintenance? Sure they can, especially if you use 'high
maintanance' to refer to personality. My ex was high maintenance (hence he's
an ex!!). Nie tylko trzeba bylo kolo tego 'skakac', ale wrecz obchodzic sie
jak ze smierdziacym jajkiem. If that's not high maintenance, I don't know what
is.

[kaya11]

axxoloti ! Let's form a support group for women coming out of the relationships
with high maintenance guys ! Who else is in ?
Masz racje - precz ze smierdzacymi jajkami !!!!

[sweet_auburn]

I can't be in because I'm not coming out of any relationship. But I let myself
neatly capture the general idea of yours. I came up with a phrase that could be
your war cry.
"to hell with stinky balls;
set your new life goals"
How about that? Sucks?

[kylie1]

> I give up on you kylie
Too bad.

Personality insecurities were already discussed between me and Ms Jones.
Please, go a few posts back and have a look.

YOU wrote that hm person "person thinks they are the centre of the world"...

and they want to:

"lower your self-esteem and make you feel second best".

That I don't agree with, and I pointed it out before. Now, you are bringing in
the issue of EMOTIONAL high maintenace.

I am done with the high maintenance issue.

Don't lose sleep over that.

kylie please, don't read it

[kaya11]

high maintenance can be both : financial and emotional.
I read a lot about psychology and learned that "high maintenance" in people is a
form of control. If somebody is insecure about themselves, they begin to treat
their partner in a very demanding way and try to wrap them around their little
finger. This lowers the partner's self esteem.
Well, I'll say no more not to get on kylie's nerves anymore.

[gruppenfuhrer_wolf]

For me, high maintenance has an emotional aspect, mostly. They are both female
and male. It has to do with having to constantly reassure the person that
he/she is worthy, smart, etc. It has to do with meeting demands of that person,
such as: why did you bring me yellow flowers, yellow means blah,blah,blah, I
like red flowers, only red flowers mean blah,blah,blah. Being with a high
maintenance person means tip-toting around her/him, because you never know what
will set them off. Sure it could be financial, but it usually goes back to some
emotional insecurity and perceived high crime commited by the low maintenance
partner.
Disclaimer: I'm NOT bitter about high maintenance people, some of them are my
closest family and friends. I embrace them all, some of them I would just like
to embrace more, WAY more, tightly than others...